So that was strange. A few days a go, I saw someone who I used to work with at my previous place of employment.
As I saw her pass by, I knew I wanted to talk to her, and find out how she was doing. It had been a long time since I had last seen her, and she didn’t really leave on the best of terms.
It was awkward, and I was hesitant at first, but my curiosity took over. I decided to take the chance and go talk to her. I really didn’t have anything to lose!
It was interesting. I listened as she shared her story, and told me of the difficulties she had gone through since that day.
We both had bad experiences to share from our previous employer. Hers, probably worse than mine. Her position was of a much higher pay grade, but still, the painful memories were stirred up once again.
For both of us.
We assured each other that we had moved on and were getting over it.
But were we?
The painful experience that I thought was in the past, still found a way to make my sleep a little restless that night.
Thankfully, it didn’t last for long.
In the morning, when I woke up and realized I wasn’t going back to work there ever again…well,my life just got a whole lot better…again!
The memories are still a little messed-up at times, but my life now, well, it’s not messed up at all.
Blessings through raindrops... 
Glad you can put that behind you! Work takes up so much of our lives it’s hard when it’s a bad experience.
You are absolutely correct – it does take up so much of our lives, and it sure took up a lot of mine! Yikes! It just makes me feel so sad for people who get stuck in work situations that they don’t care to be in – but have no way out, or can’t find a way out. I’m just so thankful that I was able to find a way out. Life’s just too short, and it really wasn’t worth all the pain.
We think a wound is healed until something happens which brings up memories and we realize it isn’t quite as healed as we thought and that there is indeed more work to do. But when that does happen, and we allow ourselves to revisit the event, to complete the unfinished work, I think that helps us to finally put closure on the event and then jettison it from our lives. It sounds like you have done this, rather than ignore it and stuff it deeper into your psyche and that my dear, is why you feel so contented now. That least is my take on it! 🙂
Hmmm….you are one smart lady, you know that? I try not to stuff it – my poor husband gets the brunt of it most of the time, but some days, well, they’re just a little harder than others. I knew it was going to take a while to get over this one, so I’m trying not to be too hard on myself. I like the idea of jettison it from my life.
I’m moving forward, day by day, step by step.
Thanks for your kind words…and your friendship in my blog world!
I found for me, that I do that because I’m looking for closure. I want a chance to say goodbye to people, even if they left involuntarily. It’s hard though, as you pointed out, and there is awkwardness. I’ve really made an effort though and most everyone has appreciated that someone thought enough of them to actually goodbye.
Nancy
Nancy,
I think you are right. It’s always good to share your “story” and to be heard, even though it’s after the fact, and the facts remain the same. The world needs more caring people like you to just stop and take a moment to show them that they care.
Thanks for doing that for others! I know you have helped people by doing so.
Becky